माँ......तुम् मुझे मत ब्याहना १८ बरस के पहले 
इनकी भी अनकही बात सुनो माँ
Ninety-years-old Jagran Devi of Tilhari headquarters wears an elated look. She proudly flaunts the red-yellow 'Raksha Sutra' that her granddaughter, 18-years-old Kalpana has just tied on her wrist. "I will take off this thread only at the time of doing her Kanyadaan.", she says with tears in her eyes.
Ask her about the auspicious nature of Akshaya Tritiya and she replies : " Marriages are made in the heaven. All days area auspicious. We have to make our marriage work."
"I was married at 11 years of age. I am an "Angotha Chhap" (illiterate), she says adding, "Look, how my thumb has decayed over the years. I don't want my grand-daughter to meet the same fate."
More than 50 women with their daughters had assembled at the Aanganbadi centre of Tilahari village their young daughters into an untimely marriage.
Girls of all age groups, mostly between nine and sixteen, tied the sacred thread on their mothers' hands. The mothers then touched their daughters' feet symbolizing the 'high pedestal' on which the girl child is placed. Most of them wear the thread till if falls of naturally.
Tilhari village has population of 1526 and more than half are women. Literacy rate of women is above 60%.
"Such congregations play a pivotal role in disseminating a social message. When we discuss a social malady on a common platform, chances for redressal become more. This thread makes us all the more determined not to push our daughters into an early marriage," observes Nandini. Her nine-years-old daughter Monika is oblivious of the 'get-together' but ask her when she would get married and pat comes the reply. "My mother will get me married when I am 20."
And what about husbands ? "Oh, our husbands are also with us:. Some complain about their men squandering money on alcohol. Some complain, albeit in whispers, about physical harassment meted out by their husbands. But all resonate the same theory about child marriage. "Our husbands are also with us. They also want to educate the daughters and marry them off at an age when they become mentally and physically mature." Sunita, an 11th grade educated housewife and mother of three- including two daughters - sums up:p: " I am determined to educate my daughters at least till graduation. Who knows they can also become engineers."
With such 'reformed' mothers, how can the daughters tie the nuptial knot at an age when then don't understand the ABC of marriage ? Akshaya Tritiya or no Akshaya Tritiya. They remain undeterred. The red-yellow thread on their wrists reminds them of the pledge they had jointly taken, not so long ago.
Ninety-years-old Jagran Devi of Tilhari headquarters wears an elated look. She proudly flaunts the red-yellow 'Raksha Sutra' that her granddaughter, 18-years-old Kalpana has just tied on her wrist. "I will take off this thread only at the time of doing her Kanyadaan.", she says with tears in her eyes.
Ask her about the auspicious nature of Akshaya Tritiya and she replies : " Marriages are made in the heaven. All days area auspicious. We have to make our marriage work."
"I was married at 11 years of age. I am an "Angotha Chhap" (illiterate), she says adding, "Look, how my thumb has decayed over the years. I don't want my grand-daughter to meet the same fate."
More than 50 women with their daughters had assembled at the Aanganbadi centre of Tilahari village their young daughters into an untimely marriage.
Girls of all age groups, mostly between nine and sixteen, tied the sacred thread on their mothers' hands. The mothers then touched their daughters' feet symbolizing the 'high pedestal' on which the girl child is placed. Most of them wear the thread till if falls of naturally.
Tilhari village has population of 1526 and more than half are women. Literacy rate of women is above 60%.
"Such congregations play a pivotal role in disseminating a social message. When we discuss a social malady on a common platform, chances for redressal become more. This thread makes us all the more determined not to push our daughters into an early marriage," observes Nandini. Her nine-years-old daughter Monika is oblivious of the 'get-together' but ask her when she would get married and pat comes the reply. "My mother will get me married when I am 20."
And what about husbands ? "Oh, our husbands are also with us:. Some complain about their men squandering money on alcohol. Some complain, albeit in whispers, about physical harassment meted out by their husbands. But all resonate the same theory about child marriage. "Our husbands are also with us. They also want to educate the daughters and marry them off at an age when they become mentally and physically mature." Sunita, an 11th grade educated housewife and mother of three- including two daughters - sums up:p: " I am determined to educate my daughters at least till graduation. Who knows they can also become engineers."
With such 'reformed' mothers, how can the daughters tie the nuptial knot at an age when then don't understand the ABC of marriage ? Akshaya Tritiya or no Akshaya Tritiya. They remain undeterred. The red-yellow thread on their wrists reminds them of the pledge they had jointly taken, not so long ago.
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पिछले इन बरस जबलपुर से ११ किलो मीटर दूर तिलहरी गाँव मे जो हुआ एच० टी० ने ज्यों का त्यों छापा इक बरस से इस कटिंग को सम्हाल के रखा था । इन तस्वीरों में जो दिख रहा है उसके लिए जिम्मेदार हैं मेरी सहयोगी माया मिश्रा, पर्यवेक्षक और श्रीमती तारा कुशवाहा , बात ये है कि नवाचार कर हमने सभी का ध्यान खींचा इस बात के लिए कि "बाल विवाह "सही नहीं है
गाँव तिलहरी के आँगनवाडी केन्द्र पर ये सब हुआ , बालिकाएं सुबह से ही जमां थीं पूरे उत्साह से अपनी दीदी तारा का न्योता जो आया था । ऑगनवाड़ी केन्द्र पर चौक पूरा गया था बेटियों के हाथों माँओं,दादियों को राखी बांधी गयी , सभी बेटियों ने कहां "कम उम्र में हमें मत बिहाना माँ "
ये सूचना है..... कि अब नारी सशक्तिकरण की बुनियादें मज़बूत होने लगीं है...!"
आज ही यक्ष प्रश्न पर बेटियाँ कविता ने भावुक कर दिया मुझे वहीं गौरव की कविताई में भी सचाई साफ पर दिख रही है और उन लड़कियों से किया इश्क़ हमने
नारी ब्लॉग पे छपी ओह ...लड़की हुई है में कीर्ती जी की करुणा
ज़रूरी है सबके किए ।
गाँव तिलहरी के आँगनवाडी केन्द्र पर ये सब हुआ , बालिकाएं सुबह से ही जमां थीं पूरे उत्साह से अपनी दीदी तारा का न्योता जो आया था । ऑगनवाड़ी केन्द्र पर चौक पूरा गया था बेटियों के हाथों माँओं,दादियों को राखी बांधी गयी , सभी बेटियों ने कहां "कम उम्र में हमें मत बिहाना माँ "
ये सूचना है..... कि अब नारी सशक्तिकरण की बुनियादें मज़बूत होने लगीं है...!"
आज ही यक्ष प्रश्न पर बेटियाँ कविता ने भावुक कर दिया मुझे वहीं गौरव की कविताई में भी सचाई साफ पर दिख रही है और उन लड़कियों से किया इश्क़ हमने
नारी ब्लॉग पे छपी ओह ...लड़की हुई है में कीर्ती जी की करुणा
ज़रूरी है सबके किए ।
